Thursday, October 13, 2011

And I say to myself, What a crazy life

Phew my life is a whirlwind of craziness. I am so glad I started blogging. Even though I haven't posted a lot of Prim recently I still love getting on and seeing what everyone else is up to. It is like the calm in my storm.

My mom is in a nursing home, in the residential unit for dementia patients. Saturday morning about 6am the phone rings. Caller ID says it is the nursing home, I thought I was going to faint when I read it, knowing it couldn't be good. Mom had gotten out in the night and they didn't find her until morning. We have had some very cold nights here already, down in the 20s. Well Thank God it was only down to about 38 that night. The nurse is telling me what happened, I just keep saying, "is she alright". I couldn't think. I couldn't breathe. 
When I got to the emergency room and saw my sweet tiny mom all wrapped up and under this weird heating equipment it just got worse. They were not very optimistic. Her body temp was only 80. It was so scary.

Well she is one tough lady, within hours she was setting up and talking and awake. She spent a few days in intensive care, watching for organ failure and also the other effects of hypothermia. 
Tomorrow I have a meeting at the nursing home, I do hope I can be patient and civil. My mom is back there now, on a different floor, for rehab. she will need some physical therapy, and still on IV antibiotics for the pneumonia/fever. She is very weak, but she was in such a good mood yesterday.

I really want to go there and yell and scream at them. I don't want to hear the excuses. I don't really know what they can say to make it better. It would be different if this was the first time but it is not. 
What do I do, what do I say? We have put the care of our loved ones in their hands. All I ask is that they keep her safe. That is all I have ever asked. They knew the alarms weren't working but hadn't gotten them fixed. They thought it would be okay. WELL it wasn't. My mom has been there so long I can't move her. That would be so traumatizing to her as well. I wish I could bring her home but I know I can't care for her.
Anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks for listening.